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Post by Vorchia on Nov 30, 2006 15:43:20 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
As most of you frequently visiting T of P-ers know my stephdad has cancer and they tried a radioactive treatment in combination with chemo? Well the treatment isn't working, things are kind of going downhill because the cancer is just growing as if no treatment ever occurred. Sadly its a rather weird type of cancer that conventional chemo has been known to have no effect on. Sadly however such a chemo is the only alternative to the radionuclide treatment. Prognosis? One or two years. Research? Being done at various places in the world but no new treatment alternative yet. So now he's just going to get a conventional chemo, which won't be fun because the side effects of THAT are much worse then the side effects of the treatment he had before and with less chance for success. Parents? Not happy. Moi? Not happy. School: Labclass is a major pain in the tail because I have a hard time focussing. The rest is going ok I guess. Internship? Thank God I got a virology intern and not an oncology one I would NOT be able to deal with an oncology research project right now. Advice? Most welcome... I intend to go to London next schoolyear for my final internship. I STILL want to do that. I ALSO don't want mom to be alone and go crazy if things decide to go for the worst case scenario. I offered before to rearrange my plans with school, like I could switch schools and study closer to home if need be but the very idea was rejected violently. So I don't think they would really want me to rearrange plans but then WHAT should I do... London is close by for me and I can fly straight back to my city in 20 minutes, which means I wouldn't technically be further away travel wise then I would be if I stayed in my own country.... Thoughts? Suggestions? Ideas? Chocolate?
BDSP Vorchia
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Barry
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Post by Barry on Nov 30, 2006 23:01:02 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear about your Step-dad's condition. I know how you feel 'cuz my Father had cancer and he went through all that. Unfortunately, all of that didn't work for him and now he's gone. I lost my Father Dec. 6, 1997 and I'm still trying to come to terms with that. For what it's worth, I will keep your Step-dad in my prayers. Don't worry Vorchia GOD will take care of him, you, and your Mother.
GOD Bless.
CYA,
— Barry
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Post by Quickstride on Nov 30, 2006 23:13:02 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear about your step-dad, Vorch.
I guess that my only advice is to see how things turn out- it seems that even if you go to London you'll be close by. Perhaps you could arrange some sort of "back up" plan in case things suddenly change and you feel that you should be closer.
Other than that, all I can offer you are hugs and some chocolate (it has cherry filling.)
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sil
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Post by sil on Dec 1, 2006 6:50:22 GMT -5
Oh Vorch... all I can think to do is call them everyday, keep enough money for an emergancy plane ticket, and pray. It's all anyone can do until they figuge out how to stop this disease.
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Anemone
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Post by Anemone on Dec 1, 2006 16:57:10 GMT -5
I may not be able to offer any good advice, but I can certainly offer my prayers for you and your family. Many, many hugs and much, much, much chocolate! We can pray and hope for the best! You have my support, and I know you have the support of many others!
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Post by Vorchia on Dec 2, 2006 16:03:23 GMT -5
Thanks for the support everyone! Its appreciated.
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Dakota
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Post by Dakota on Dec 2, 2006 17:32:44 GMT -5
Vorch, I am so sorry.
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Post by Azonthus on Dec 5, 2006 12:15:15 GMT -5
Hey Vorch.
As I said in the PM, I'm very sorry to hear this. Everyone at my church has been updated and is praying for him. On a slightly happier note, Hannah keeps asking me when you'll come back again;) I tell her not until I've visited you, but she still insists! Kids can be cute=)
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Post by Vorchia on Dec 6, 2006 2:53:56 GMT -5
Oh I'd try to pop by if you and Greg decided to get married before you manage to visit me. Tell her that and maybe the question will turn into a 'So... When's the wedding party??' Heehee.
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Post by Vorchia on Dec 11, 2006 4:53:15 GMT -5
Stressed out and worried parents = extremely hard to deal with parents. I can't do anything right and will get yelled at for the slightest. I understand but its still a major pain. I can't focus on studying and schoolstuff whatsoever. My little (hyperactive) sister seems a bit quiet too, might be the result of our parents being so on the edge they yell at us over nothing. Blah. I do what I can but mom keeps asking me things like 'when I can be home early to watch the kids' but 'home early' means three o clock which is simply NOT going to happen. There are school things I CAN skip but being home that early involves skipping labclasses which would be a mjor problem because if I don't do them I have to redo the quarter. Welcome to hell; school versus home... I prefer being at school, nobody yelling at me and I can actually make an attempt at studying. At the rate the moods of my parents are going I'll probably get flayed if I flunk. Then there's the kids...... I'm not AS stressed out as my parents so I kinda have to try to help my little sibs a bit if only to compensate for the terrible mood of my parents. I don't know what to tell my parents that would help them. I'm supposed to say optimistic things so I TRY. Its freaking nigh on impossible to maintain that. Especially when I can't seem to do anything right. I'd know a few choice words I could use to describe it but then everything would turn into chocolate and as much as I like chocolate I'm sure you wouldn't approve of this production method. Today my stephdad's going to the hospital to start chemo. I wonder if he'll loose his hair like seems to be a rather common side effect of chemo. I've never seen the man without a moustache.
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Aven Bluewing
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Post by Aven Bluewing on Dec 12, 2006 18:20:29 GMT -5
I 'm really sorry, Vorchia, I wish there was something I could do as well; but unfortunatly, chocolate can only do so much *manages weak smile*. Speaking of which, here is some very rich, high-quality, muy-primo milk chocolate *brings in armful*, eat it slowly , plus a glass of milk to wash it down. You and your family will be in my prayers as well. You can count on it. This is what we came to Earth for: to learn and grow through trials and tribulations. Many hugs and tears , Aven
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Post by aprentice16 on Dec 22, 2006 15:30:40 GMT -5
me too, sorry to hear the news.
this must be a very difficult time for you
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Post by Vorchia on Dec 24, 2006 10:17:26 GMT -5
Oh yeah... I have to study for an oncology exam meaning I have to somehow shove it aside, put my mind from 'emotion' to 'logic' and ignore the awful reality that IS and the impossibility of it all, the sheer mind boggling complexity of all things that can go wrong with cell division and the implications... And the fact that I do not know how to HELP it! I can solve simple molecular biological problems, but this? ?? This is 100 times worse then I thought. I also somehow need to keep the lovely anatomical pictures away from om because even I find the picture of the cross sectioned cancerous liver bears a disturbing resemblance to the cat scan image of my dad's liver. Some things ought to stay in vitro... Oh I'll live allright...
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Vira Redclaw
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Post by Vira Redclaw on Dec 24, 2006 10:50:44 GMT -5
*hugs* I'll be praying for you, your stepdad and your family, Vorchia. I hope and pray that everything turns out for the better and that your stepdad is cured. *huggles*
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